I'm not being overly sensitive but this person has posted more nasty and hurtful comments then any others I have seen.I have not yet had the honor of this person's comments, If Lucky or other style spotters think I'm wrong in this matter I will apologize. Kalexa, I think your comments are very offensive. You rarely have a kind word for anyone. Why is it there no pictures of you? Is it you can dish it out and can't take it? I think it takes alot for anyone to put their picture out there and you can give your opinion with out being so cruel and hurtful! Not everyone seems to walk around with the self esteem and ego that you have!

Kalexa,sorry to use you as the example but there are a few others that also follow in your style. I just got tired of it at your comment.

I hadn't seen that Kalexa is back, but I'm not surprized JAYMAN! She was around at the start of the site and had awful things to write. (The fact that she had no pics posted was brought up then also) The best thing that can be done is to flag her comments as inappropriate when they are come acrossed. It's a shame that someone choses a site based on support aand sisterhood to enlarge their own inflated ego and need to feel superior! Flag Her!

Thanks moonchylde for your response,there is one more that is I think is even worse. I felt guilty for lashing out but the remarks made were so uncalled for. I was concerned how the person who was attacked would feel especially when they ask for help and may need a boost in self esteem.
Thanks for making me feel better about my posting.

I have seen some people like this as well, JAYMAN. Not the person you specifically pointed out, though in these cases there was also a fairly blank profile. I don't know how familiar you are with internet culture, but the term for a person like this is a "troll." Bascially meaning they really have no interest in the topic and yet feel the need to spend time upsetting those who do. All women need that boost in self-esteem from time to time...to prey on that is cruel and, as you said, uncalled for. It's worse than the usual things you see posted by trolls about movies/music, like, "This song is gay." Not nice(or mature, either) but at least that's attacking a taste instead of what someone was born with and cannot help.

Thanks for explaining alyabonfiglio. I'm not familar with internet cullture. I jst can't understand how some people can get thrill out of hurting others. The one nasty comment was definitly something this person can't probably change and I feel is doing the best he or she can. Wouldn't we all like to go through life airbrushed and frozen in time when we felt we were at our best. It also upset me because the person who was attacked I doubt has a thick skin. It reminds me of kids in school picking on the weak one of the group,just sick.
Anything else I need to know about internet culture?

LoL...just that most people abide by this rule: Don't feed the troll! As with most bullies, when they see they aren't getting the reaction they want they'll stop their behavior. Not to say that you shouldn't have brought it up, though, because I think it is something that needs to be addressed.

Thanks again. Not having had "human" children I don't know computer lingo. Thanks for the update. So the "troll" gets off on my reaction,how sad. I just hope the people he or she made hutrtful comments to are not effected.
I have to say I'm glad I have found this outlet for my ocd of handbags. There are so many nice women I have met,just wish there was a way we could e-mail each other or even chat on the phone.
Thanks again.

they are called what?? "trolls"??
ha ha ha that is so hillarious. I didnt know they had an official name. Well it sure is nice to know and see there are genuine ladies out here giving advice and comments, it keeps my faith in humanity, and our style spotter community.

i agree with you all, + admire you Jayman for bringing light on a subject that is sometimes uncomfortable for people to discuss.

flagging + ignoring seems like a good solution.

i know shes posted a comment on one of my photos, but it didn't bother me a bit, i'm very secure + confident in who i am, so the comment had no impact/validity to me at all.

however, i'm very aware of the fact that someone who does not have high self esteem might really be hurt by one of her/those comments.
the bottom line is that they're vile + extremely uncalled for.

we're human, our bodies age, things change(for the better + worse)... this site/community is supposed to be fun + bring women together who enjoy fashion!

i say, stay positive +
FLAG IGNORE FLAG IGNORE FLAG IGNORE FLAG IGNORE FLAG IGNORE FLAG IGNORE ...

xo-

Yes, thanks Jayman for bringing it up. I just looked through her posts, and unfortuntely have seen much worse from other people. Perhaps I was "feeding the troll" as they say, but I was on here one day and was appalled by the things a particular user was saying. I made a point to ge back through some of her posts and say something positive or at least constructive. Most of the time her posts were irrelevant to the look anyway, and the looks were actually good ones, so it wasn't like I had to really think about good things to say. I'm all about this site being a positive outlet for all of our fashion passions, and fortunately there are plenty of us who feel the same way. Sooo...aside from not feeding the trolls, I say we kill 'em with kindness and continue to be positive influences!!

ugh trolls. the anonymity of the internet brings out the worst in some...... sigh.

I must say this web site is full of a lot of women I admire. heatheranne99 you have a great take on life,Thanks.

I take the comments on this site to heart, so I appreciate all of you ladies for giving me confidence and helping me with my style. Thanks to all of you with big hearts and great advice.

"lnlemonlime" is another one who posts really unflattering comments and some I've seen are way beyond inappropriate. Besides the unpleasant comment I received about facial piercings, I've seen some asking if member's breasts were real. Tacky. The beauty of diversity is what makes this site so much fun. You don't have to like a particular style and if warranted, a little kind advice goes a long way. I know I'm no 5 star styler but I try to improve when I can with what I have.

Flag the comments and ignore them is the best thing to do.

That's exactly who I was talking about MrsRpd ;).

I just read your profile and you "sound" fabulous!! and funny! I was born and raised in Ohio. My parents still live in the house I grew up in. Go Buckeyes.... :) And like Heatheranne says-let's just ignore the ugly comments-people seem to do that in order to make themselves feel better-they may have their own self-esteem issues. Not a license to be ugly, but kind of explains it.

Haha, thank you. I have my witty moments. I'd love to move out of Ohio but I'm here for good.

Yeah can't let a few bad apples spoil the bunch. I truly enjoy this site and have been inspired by some very fashionable individuals. Vile comments be damned, I'm enjoying my time here and love seeing everyone's different styles.

Thanks to all of you who are bringing lots of style inspriation and positive words to the site. I really take the comments seriously and have gained a lot from your style advice. Thanks!

My main concern was you don't know how fragile that person's self esteem is and one hurtful remark could cause damage to their self esteem or worse. Sometimes words can be more hurtful then actions especially what I saw printed.

yes, i agree with you. 1 word can be like a thousand daggers.

People can be super insensitive. I try not to even look at my comments anymore :(